Oral herpes partner

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Thinking about confronting the guy who gave it to me?

2020.09.23 20:49 halodevils1 Thinking about confronting the guy who gave it to me?

So long story-- I met a guy senior year of high school. I was going through a lot and just wanted to have casual sex with a guy. I had just started to sleep with other people/ older people as I was in high school and just broke up with my first boyfriend (Sweet guy never cheated). . New guy was a junior in college and was the only one I was sleeping with/kept sleeping with. Anyways a month into sleeping together he told me I should get tested and I did and came back negative for everything as it was a swab and not a blood test. I also wanted to get tested as I remember I had some itching and I wanted to be sure I was negative for everything. I had asked him if he had any STDs prior but he just sort of avoided the question. Being stupid and newly 18 I didn't really pry anymore . I remember just before I left for college I was diagnosed with HSV-2. I had only been sleeping with this guy 6 months prior to going to school about 3x a week. I didnt have any other symptoms besides the occasional itch which I assumed was nothing. Literally diagnosed 3 days prior to leaving to college and my theory is that the stress of such a big change kinda caused my first outbreak if I am/was one of those asymptomatic people. I was so devastated and stressed out from just starting school and barely being able to walk that I never really talked to him about it as we were far apart from each other and I knew it was him. Anyways we started hooking up again when I came back for school like 8 or 9 months later, but I was 100% sure, he gave it to me and I had genital and I was doing oral on him plus I was taking antivirals. I also was not sleeping with people at my school because I didnt want to be embarrassed. But he had asked me after I left like a few weeks after if I get cold sores. I never had one on my mouth and was negative for O and G- HSV1. And no way could he have gotten ghsv2 from oral sex. As after my diagnosis that's all I would do to him. He said he was having an outbreak of some sort and was going to the doctor. He waited exactly 2 weeks to tell me it was HSV-2. At first he tried to make it seem like it was GHSV-1. Anyways I def knew he gave it to me and I think he knew he had it since that weird anonymous message he got about being tested but I was pretty sure he knew he had herpes the whole time and probably sent it to himself to show me "If you have anything its someone else fault". Im not stupid by anymeans and human manipulation is something I see very easily. But he has a girlfriend now and I tried to talk to him a few months ago but was kinda blown off/ ignored. I just want to ask him if he had it the whole time and did that to me ya know? Just more mad about the long ass game I was pulled into especially at such a naive and exciting age. Its been a few years and Im almost done with college and I tell all my partners about my status now. I don't want to do to someone what he did to me.
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2020.09.23 13:02 bittyxkitty 75% chance of first outbreak... but likely 100%

First I’d (24F) like to say I think I’m relatively health conscientious when it comes to STI’s and overall health safety. I get tested for gono, chlamydia, syph, HIV/AIDS, trich and UTI’s prior and post meeting and dating a new partner. I’ve been tested for herpes 2 times in the last 4 years because of some “trauma” on my vagina which was the result of rough sex.
Two weeks ago I met a guy off a dating app and we hit things off. About a month ago I had my blood taken for HIV/AIDS, syphilis and Hepatitis. I went to the clinic and did a urine culture after meeting this guy to make sure I wasn’t carrying chlamydia, gonorrhoea or trich before we were to sleep together. Everything came back negative.
Last week we decided to have protected penetrative sex but we both gave and received oral without any protection. There was a lot of fooling around without any protection (teasing, grinding against each other’s body parts). We must have had 8-9 rounds of aggressive sex between the whole evening and morning. Two days after this I went on a run at night and didn’t wear the proper attire and was freezing on my way home. I thought surely I will get sick now. On Friday I took myself to the hospital to get tested for COVID - thinking I want to rule that out before I see this guy again and for the sake of my own concern.
I had swollen lymph nodes in my neck, a slight cough and I also felt generally off like I was getting a cold. No fever. My vagina started to feel weird, almost like I had a yeast infection coming on. Obviously I wondered if I had picked up anything for this most recent encounter. Tested negative for COVID Saturday. Sunday comes around and I take an anti-fungal pill from the pharmacist, hoping to clear what I believed to be a yeast infection. At this point I felt sick - that night I felt feverish and I was convinced that run gave me a cold/flu. My cough got a little worse and I started to get a sore throat. I was still experiencing discharge, itchiness, and just stereotypical symptoms of some sort of infection in my vagina.
Monday rolls around and my vagina doesn’t feel as itchy today. Discharge is basically gone. But now I’m experiencing actual pain in my vagina. When I was sitting at work from 8am-2pm I knew something was not right - never have I experienced this sort of weird constant pain/swollen feeling when I’ve had urinary infections or chlamydia. That night the itchiness returns.
Yesterday I wake up and realize I haven’t even inspected my vagina since I’ve been dealing with some cold symptoms and vaginal infection symptoms. From the outside my vagina looked perfectly fine, I felt swollen inside though. I spread my labia apart and I could see inflamed bright red tissue with some white (which the doctor would later tell me is an ulcer). I had identical sores on both sides of my urethra. My vaginal canal looked so swollen and yeasty. I called the doctor as soon as they opened and got over there.
The doctor took one look at my vagina and said we needed to do a herpes swab. My heart sunk into my chest and I couldn’t help but silently cry. I knew of the stigma surrounding herpes but I was so shocked and horrified that this might be a reality for me after 2 dates with a guy I barely knew. She told me based on the physical appearance alone that my odds of this being herpes was 75%. She said she has seen patients come in with symptoms and it turns out to be staphylococcus. She asked me when my last sexual encounter was and I explained it was about a week ago with x, y and z symptoms after. She then prescribed me antivirals for 10 days and I left the clinic crying into the phone with my best friend on the other end.
I cried all morning, I cried at work, I cried when I got home and figured out how I’m going to tell a guy I barely know that there’s a high chance I am experience my first herpes outbreak after our first sexual encounter. I tried to accept that even though she said 75% that what I was experiencing and seeing was very similar to herpes.
I spoke with the guy I’ve been talking to over the phone and he was very upset for me. He was extremely compassionate and kind. He told me he’s never experienced any sort of cold sore on his face or on his genitals - but it did sound like he has never been tested for herpes. He told me he would be there for me if I needed anything and that he was so sorry. He is going to get tested this morning.
I woke up this morning wishing that yesterday was a dream. I’ve now taken 4 pills of antivirals and my body is already responding well - which really confirms what is happening. My vagina doesn’t feel nearly as swollen and I am curious to check it out once I get myself out of bed.
I have so many questions but I am so grateful there is a community out here that I can seek out for advice, support and general empathy on this subject. Thank you guys so much for reassuring me through these posts and pictures while I was going through mental hell yesterday❤️
TLDR: Had sex with a new partner for the first time last week, experienced cold symptoms then yeast infection symptoms that progressed. Saw a doctor yesterday who said there’s a 75% chance of this being my first herpes outbreak. Waiting 10 days for results while I take antivirals.
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2020.09.22 04:53 marie_12341999 do people still go down on you?

Hi guys!
So just to recap my current partner transmitted hsv1 to my genitals as he has ohsv1 back in July. I have not had any herpes related issues since then and I feel completely normal down there. However, he has not gone down on me since then. I’m not sure if he feels scared since oral sex is how I got my ghsv1? I feel like I should talk to him about it but I’m not sure how to approach the topic. We have a very active sex life and I perform oral sex on him. I just miss it you know? Would love to hear your guys’ opinions and/or stories!
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2020.09.20 19:35 blanket20 Waiting on results but keep recking my brain.

I had unprotected reciprocated vaginal and oral sex last Saturday with my partner, typical Saturday. Neither one of us has slept with anyone else in over 2 years. Wednesday I noticed my right leg was so sore and my vagina was sensitive. Thursday I started feeling a little lumpy and boom Friday night I notice small red bumps cluster down the right side of labia and 3 between my lower butt and outter vagina on the right side. Saturday morning I got 3 more clusters on my right buttcheek and one on my right back thigh. At this point I figured it has to be herpes so I go to the local urgent care to get antivirals going ASAP. My right leg is killing me. Doctor will not say but i think he’s just playing it safe until results come. I got tested for a full panel swap blood work all that for all stds. Sunday morning now and the vesicles are turning white and super sensitive. No itching but right leg and weird toe sensation killing me and sleeping sucks. I’m on 3 antibiotics which totals to 10 pills a day. I’ve taken about 5 antivirals so far herpes specifically.
Does turning white mean it’s almost over? If my blood is negative and swabs are positive , then he transmitted right ? Any tips on to sooth the pain? My leg feels like somebody keep shocking it. I cant sit. What are the odds hes telling the truth and I actually got it from someone prior and it’s showing itself now ? I am miserable and just stuck in bed. Dreading work tomorrow. Thank you
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2020.09.20 18:21 hotdaggers Feedback Knowledge

Hi all,
I just recently started talking to this girl and she's seems great. Things started kicking off and we scheduled a day to meet up and have intercourse. Last night she let me know she has herpes type 2. I dont know as much as I would like to and wanted some feedback. She hasn't had a breakout in 2 years and is on medication for it. She has been with a few partners since and none have contracted it. If we use a condom and take precautions, what would be the chance I contracted it? She also let me know she wants oral done. She let me know other partners have before and they didn't contract it but I wanted some feedback on that as well if i were to perform it. Any feedback would be helpful! It's not a dealbreaker but we've been talking it over and I'd just appreciate more knowledge!
Thank you!
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2020.09.19 18:47 thrwayrndm Testing explanation help, am I covered?

22F. Please no judgement, I know I did something stupid, but I hate myself as is.
Started having a physical relationship with someone for the first time in 2 years. Theyve been over several times, and They came over monday and I gave them oral, came into contact with their fluids and my own. No PIV or PIA. Ive never done PIA or PIV before, although with my ex from 2 years ago we did oral and rubbed bits together, and my exes fluids did come into contact with my vulva. Well the day before yesterday or the day before that i woke up with bad throat pain. I brushed it off as the weather cooling off at night and making my apartment drier, causing my throat to hurt. It's happened before. But today when i looked in the mirror i expected to see a red throat, but saw my tonsils were swollen and covered in white stuff. Not tonsil stones, which i have had before. I got really worried. I texted the person and they said they got tested a year ago and then was in a monogamous relationship with one person for that year, and that person never mentioned having anything and neither had any symptoms so they didn't think much of it. I got really paranoid. It could be my new partner, it could be my ex (he cheated on me and just generally lied). Ive never been tested. I dont know if an STD can flair up 2 years later. I dont want to have caught anything from my new partner but Ill also feel terrible if I gave him something. So today I went to MedExpress. They took 2 throat swabs and 3 vials of blood, and a monospot.
This is everything on my receipt-
-monospot-negative
-rapid strep test-negative (one mouth swab)
-ordered chlamydia
-ordered gonorrhea
-ordered herpes simplex 1
-ordered herpes simplex 2
-ordered RPR
-ordered Trich vaginalis, Rna, Qual, males
-ordered throat culture (i assume the other swab)
Initially they just did the strep test and monospot, then when i kind of pushed they did the gono and chlamydia order and prescribed a z-pak. Then i pushed a little more and they did the full STD panel and took away the z-pak prescription and gave me-
-Flagyl 500mg 1 tablet 2×daily 7 days
-doxycycline hyclate 100mg 1tabler 2×daily 7 days
I was wondering what the purpose of the antibiotics were for (like what all they knocked out) and was unsure what the RPR and the RNA/Qual/Males was and was hoping someone could clarify. Does it seem like my bases are covered?? I'm just so worried
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2020.09.19 00:03 Whatittaughtme OHSV1 Asymptomatic Transmission Rates

Is there any information on Transmission rates of OHSV1 to GHSV1 via oral sex (assuming the person hasn’t had a cold sore since being a kid like most of the population) .
Recently had to inform my partner (after months of being under the impression she knew that HSV1 can infect the genitals as well when she told me her full panel was negative) that a cold sore is Herpes and that many are uneducated since her doctor told her that HSV1 is only oral and HSV2 is only genital.
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2020.09.17 02:48 _cupcakess I am assumed to have genital herpes from oral, but my partner said he was clean.

I’m still not sure about everything but I went to the doctor and he prescribed me antibiotics for it since that’s what he diagnosed me with. I still have to wait for test results..
I let my partner know about it and he says that he is clean, but will get tested. This has never happened before and he’s given me oral plenty of times and recently this is the first time that i’ve gotten bumps around my vagina and anus. I honestly don’t know what to do or how to stay calm.
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2020.09.17 00:02 hopefulforhappiness Herpes is the most misunderstood and over stigmatized STI

I am among the small 20% of people who have herpes who actually know they have it.
That is right.. 80% of people who have herpes have no idea and therefore have the luxury of living in ignorant bliss. In addition, this is a virus that ~80% of the population has in some form (either HSV1 and HSV2). This is not something that is included in a typical STI screening so while most of the population gets to run around claiming they are "clean" with no actual proof of being free of this virus infuriates me.
The stigma surrounding this virus is awful and unjust. As a personal antidote, I waited until I was 24 to have sex- tried to be responsible and wait for someone I really connected with. I never had any outbreak that was visible (very common, most people are asymptomatic), but I pushed him to get tested as he mentioned a small bump one day. Shortly after I got tested and it was concluded that we both had this. I was devastated. We are no longer together and it has been miserable learning to try and battle the stigma in my own head and the idea my value as a human being has decreased. I now have something that is considered "incurable" and now carry the burden to disclose this to all potential future partners knowing the assumptions and negative thoughts that come along with the phrase " I really like you, but I have herpes..."
I would give anything to be free of this burden. The idea that I have to disclose something that so many people live with and don't realize, or have it in an oral form which carries far less stigma is so frustrating. I wish everyone could see what herpes through the lens of someone who lives this.
The thing that brings back some control to my feeling of having this virus is advocating for a cure. If you feel inclined, it would mean a lot if you would be willing to sign this petition to push for the current research trials happening with Sanofi
https://www.change.org/p/sanofi-pasteur-sanofi-pasteur-save-lives-prioritize-and-accelerate-the-hsv15-vaccine-trials?recruiter=1148285655&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=share_petition
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2020.09.14 22:59 VerlangaRex Do I really really have genital herpes now?

sI had military field training the entire week from 8/14 to 8/20. On 8/21 I was showering and noticed the two lumps I had on my penis, but I didn't think anything of it because I figured honestly it from being in the field- this isn't pretty but I did masturbate in my one-man tent so thought maybe that caused some irritation or a blocked skin pore or something. One on my penis head towards the right a little and one pretty much where my foreskin is or would be if I weren't circumsized. Red, enlarged, the foreskin one was itchy, no pain if I touched/squeezed it and no body pain, aches, headaches, fatigue (from what I could tell). Just two nasty looking pimples. Pictures on the imgur album for 8/26. Two, four, six and seven days by no change- I scheduled a Dr Appt and went on 8/29. Both were solid and no liquid, no discharge or anything. By that day I think the lump on the glans had a tiny silver cap on it and doctor described as a lesion. Doctor used a blade to cut into the glans and took a sample, she also said possibility for no good sample because it wasn't open/something like that.. Urine and blood test, then I was prescribed Acylovir 3x times/day for a week. Doctor put in the notes that if test came back, a serology test may be requested to rule out HSV because the lumps could go down due to course of time/healing normally or due to the antiviral medication. I started that 8/30 and finished 9/6 only missed one time.
By Wednesday 9/2 that night I think the two lumps were like 90% reduced and gone. I also got my lab results back and I was told I tested negative for STDs screened and the culture came back negative for HSV; was told the negative culture is likely accurate via health system messaging. For the whole past week 9/7 or /8 to now the two raised lumps are there but not red/skin color, no irritation or itchiness really. I just went to my followup today and (different) Doctor looked at the area/progression and said because the lumps had gone down it was likely due to the antiviral medication and serology is hit or miss because many people have just have Herpes without knowing (i.e. mouth sores or super mild symptoms and have missed it) so she was prescribing Valtrex as a stowaway in the event that another outbreak occurred to help me relieve those symptoms if they were came up. So that's where I'm at today. Definitely a little anxious today and read this post seeing the blood test negative/swab positive stuff. Not sure what to make of it all. Am I diagnosed, then?
I know it's a high likelihood that I do have genital herpes now. Just wondering if it's worth it to push for that serology now or latedo anything else to actually confirm that I do in fact have it. In the past two years, year one I was fully monogamous with someone and don't think there was any infidelity. During this past two years I had an FWB, a one night stand with protection during spring break, another FWB, and then recently I've been seeing one. So, five partners in two years where I didn't overlap. Sex was unprotected with all eventually except the one night stand (and that one was a virgin). Outside of these past two years, yeah I'll be honest I've been promiscuous and had unprotected sex with flings hepre and there. Struggling to come to grasp with who I got it from.... it had been two/three months without activity before I had sex with my current partner. Could she have had oral herpes and given it to me when going down? Been reading that initial outbreaks may be months or even years. Wondering if it's worth it to ask those former partners and even to tell them (without me knowing for a fact if I do or do not have genital herpes).
Here's pictures I took:
https://imgur.com/a/7Tjpep0
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2020.09.12 00:18 motorhuggai_2700 Should I worry about oral herpes (HSV-1)?

A girl I'm seeing just got tested for full panel std's, she basically got tested for literally everything and she was positive for HSV1. She freaked out, shes never in life had a cold sore so shes asymptomatic. OR she got it from me and I've always had it and ive been asymptomatic my whole life.
Apparently 70% of the population has herpes 1, oral herpes. A lot of people have it and get it during childhood. Not everyone has outbreaks i.e. cold sore outbreaks.
Saw this post too which basically says everyone has it.
https://www.reddit.com/Herpes/comments/din2t6/expecting_to_have_casual_sex_with_multiple/
A friend of mine has it and has outbreaks once a year, she says she doesnt live her life any differently.
Should I care? Should I bother to get tested for it? Should I go about life no differently even though a girl I’m casually dating has HSV-1? Should I worry about future partners?
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2020.09.11 16:51 TronCat- I am utterly defeated.

20M. Perhaps I am writing this to relieve some pressure or air out my own thoughts but I can't help but to feel completely crushed and defeated at the moment. For much of the past three years, I was stuck on the edge of a dysfunctional relationship with a girl at a nearby university and this caused me some serious emotional trauma. For the few months at a time we were able to keep ourselves apart and learn how to be okay on our own, I suffered pretty significant depression and a complete and utter lack of sex drive. I couldn't get it up for ANYBODY, no matter how hard I tried (happened w/ about 5 different women) and I would wake up every morning with my dick in discomfort due to a lack of blood flow. My dick was a cold, dead organ about 85% of the time and it definitely affected my mood and self-confidence. My first two years of undergrad I was pigeonholed into Greek life and found myself to be the most miserable frat boy.
Bringing it back, the COVID-19 crisis time allowed me to finally come to terms with not being in love with my old partner anymore. I started creating healthier habits for myself at home, started reading, meditating, and figuring out how to enjoy myself more amidst the quarantine boredom. I was starting to feel more like myself than I had in years. I looked more forward than ever to move back to school in the fall so that I could branch out from the recluse I had often been in those past years. I was still pretty nervous, but excited nonetheless.
Even in the small social circles my housemates and I kept ourselves in, I found my ability and excitement to flirt with women to be where it never had been before. I was able to manage multiple leads at once, rather than manically obsess over just one. I felt the most normal and happy I've felt in years last week, even making a mental note of it. Last Saturday, I ended up walking somewhere with one of my housemates' close friends and I was able to stir it up well enough that we slept together that night. This was my first lay after 7+ months of no sex and to my grand surprise, my dick performed miraculously. I was elated. This wasn't even someone I had plans to sleep with again after but I stayed the night and had morning sex too.
The following Tuesday I was diagnosed with herpes by my school's health center. The doctor examined the red marks on my dick for about 5 seconds, told me nonchalantly "that I had herpes, 99%", muttered something else and walked out of the room to go get a swab kit.
Only thing that’s strange is that my OB began around 10-12 hours after initial sex which seems super quick. It hasn’t been very painful anywhere on my dick but I have two waistband sores that are kind of raw/painful/itchy.
I still haven't overcome that initial feeling of being absolutely floored by the news. My entire psyche is still completely fucked. I had been vying to explore the dating scene unhindered for LITERALLY YEARS. To have this taken from me in my first non-pitiable sexual encounter makes it seem that I am forever DICK cursed. All I wanted to was to explore without the heavy shit weighing me down.
The thought of never being able to have fluid, fun foreplay, unprotected oral, the weight of the social stigma, and disclosing to partners has brought me near the point of being physically sick. I have someone who I've been texting for months over quarantine planning to visit me sometime soon from a different city and I just don't know what to say to her anymore. She likely thinks I'm ghosting. I'm worried I will freeze into inaction. That my grades will fall harder than they already have. I can't find the motivation to leave my room and social interaction with more than a few people brings me quickly to a breaking point where I have to leave and sob.
I've read that the pain of this comes in waves of being totally fine and comfortable to absolutely distraught "this is life-ending" type feelings. I'm curious how long it took you guys to become more okay with it and how you navigated the forced awkwardness of sex. This also seems like a complete paradigm shift to how I'll be able to experience intimacy. I just loath the fact that my sex will always be somewhat of a burden or obstacle to be accepted by others.
What are some things you thought initially would be the worst that pleasantly played out or were not an issue? I'm pretty sure what I got is ghsv2 but we'll have to wait and see to be sure.

Well.. thanks for reading <3. God I'm pissed about not being able to get normal head anymore.
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2020.09.11 00:39 Adventurous-Power-14 How long can HSV2 lie dormant before initial outbreak?

Also posted in the Herpes sub, throwaway account for obvious reasons
I am a married female who just received an HSV2 diagnosis after 2+ months of vague waxing and waning symptoms that I did not think could possibly be HSV, but, well, surprise! No symptoms previous to this. I have been monogamous and as far as I know my husband has too, for over a decade.
The provider I saw believes this is a primary outbreak, my igg test was positive and valtrex is clearing it up quickly. I had two other partners for intercourse (never without condoms) and a couple of oral sex partners in addition to those prior to marriage. The partners I had intercourse with and my spouse all stated they were virgins when we got together, and I definitely believe 2/3, the third is a coin toss whether that was true or not.
Long and short of it, my question is, is it possible to somehow have been exposed prior to becoming monogamous with this person 10+ years ago and just now be having a first outbreak, or at least a first noticeable one? I was told I could not have gotten gHSV2 from unprotected oral sex- is that also accurate? Am I grasping at straws to explain this, more or less?
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2020.09.09 07:14 throwaway768789 HSV1 positive 6 months ago. Sex is now painful & triggers an outbreak

Hi everyone. About 6 months ago, I tested positive for HSV1 (oral herpes) in the genital area and negative for HSV2. Partner had a cold sore and went down on me.
The outbreak was extremely painful but I recovered and have been okay since. Sex, however, is still painful and sex also seems to trigger outbreaks.
Basically, I notice that I’m okay. And then have sex and 2 days later start having symptoms of an outbreak.
Is sex painful for anyone now after being positive? How do you all manage outbreaks and prevent them from being triggered? I don’t want to give up sex for the rest of my life or live in pain.
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2020.09.08 22:11 throwawayaccnt444555 Herpes or Anxiety Please Help Me :(

Hi I’m a 20 year old girl on Friday I had PIV sex with a new partner as well as gave him oral there were no signs of HIV that I could see visually but I know it could be asymptotic. On Sunday my upper lip started tingling but I noticed that my lip felt like it was about to split so I associated the pain to that. Today as I was checking my lips and in the bottom I found some red spots that weren’t there before. I fear that I came into contact and I’m waiting for a blister to appear before I go to an urgent care but I’m scared I came into contact without being told that they had Herpes. When mentioned to my partner he seemed unaware about why I would be experiencing that feeling. He was the last person I was intimate with prior to him I hadn’t had sex for about two months.
Besides the feeling in my upper lip there is no pain on the spots I wouldn’t have noticed them if I was not looking for them
Picture of bottom lip
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2020.09.08 21:56 throwawayaccnt444555 Herpes or Anxiety please help :(

Hi I’m a 20 year old girl on Friday I had PIV sex with a new partner as well as gave him oral there were no signs of Herpes that I could see visually but I know it could be asymptotic. On Sunday my upper lip started tingling but I noticed that my lip felt like it was about to split so I associated the pain to that. Today as I was checking my lips and in the bottom I found some red spots that weren’t there before. I fear that I came into contact and I’m waiting for a blister to appear before I go to an urgent care but I’m scared I came into contact without being told that they had Herpes. When mentioned to my partner he seemed unaware about why I would be experiencing that feeling. He was the last person I was intimate with prior to him I hadn’t had sex for about two months
Besides the feeling in my upper lip there is no pain on the spots I wouldn’t have known they were there if I weren’t looking for them.
Picture of bottom lip
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2020.09.06 05:14 meem_queen Recurring fissure of posterior fourchette and area under vaginal opening. Desperate for feedback. I feel so hopeless and sad.

I've (21F) been dealing with recurring fissures of my posterior fourchette and the area above it (outside the vagina and underneath the opening) for almost a year now, and it's seemingly provoked only by the friction/pressure of sex. Throughout this time, I've only had one sexual partner. I finally went to my college's health center and have been tested for any and every STD (all negative) and BV and yeast infections (also negative). The practitioners gave me the same rudimentary lecture every time: foreplay, fragrance-free detergent, cotton underwear, etc. I promise that none of those things make a difference, and I've always used unscented, dye-free products far before I began having these problems. I finally went to an MD of gynecology a couple weeks ago, and she confirmed that I have fissuring in the areas I'm describing and used silver nitrate to stop the bleeding. Following this treatment, I abstained from sex until she gave me the green light, but after the first sexual encounter it happened again. I will be going back to the doctor to get another silver nitrate treatment, but I want to push her to do more tests/explore more causes. I asked her about the possibility of an estrogen deficiency, but she said it's unlikely since I am young, healthy, and getting my period, plus I am on a birth control that contains estradiol. I don't think my vagina feels dry, and I believe I produce enough natural lubrication during arousal. It seems that the skin tears when tugged during sex, and it didn't do this before. At this point, I am at a loss, but I refuse to be repetitively told that this will heal without other intervention since it has been a year of this re-occurring. Even if it does *eventually* heal, I know it is NOT NORMAL for the vulva to take nearly a year to heal itself. This has affected my mental health sooo much because I am anxious about finding answers and just want sex to be a happy part of my relationship. I need some advice, insight, suggestions, and guidance on what treatments or routes to explore with my doctor. Below I have a complete list of all the things I've been tested for so far as well as some other random symptoms:
  1. Yeast infection (negative, unsure of both internal and external were swabbed)
  2. BV (negative)
  3. Pap smear performed (normal)
  4. Trichomoniasis, chlamydia, gonorrhea (negative)
  5. Herpes simplex 1 AND herpes simplex 2 (negative for antibodies)
Other symptoms
  1. Recurrent bleeding gums only on the gum line, unrelated to oral health/hygiene. Was previously diagnosed with HSV1 infection by the dentist, but my last blood test showed that I've never had HSV1 (negative for antibodies)
  2. Mild anal fissures that resolve on their own
Any insight would be so incredibly appreciated. This has been so stressful, and I hate looking to the internet for medical advice, but I am SO sick of going around in circles with different practitioners that I am desperate for answers. Thanks so much guys.
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2020.09.06 05:11 meem_queen Recurring fissure of posterior fourchette and area under vaginal opening. Desperate for feedback. I feel so hopeless and sad.


I've (21F) been dealing with recurring fissures of my posterior fourchette and the area above it (outside the vagina and underneath the opening) for almost a year now, and it's seemingly provoked only by the friction/pressure of sex. Throughout this time, I've only had one sexual partner. I finally went to my college's health center and have been tested for any and every STD (all negative) and BV and yeast infections (also negative). The practitioners gave me the same rudimentary lecture every time: foreplay, fragrance-free detergent, cotton underwear, etc. I promise that none of those things make a difference, and I've always used unscented, dye-free products far before I began having these problems. I finally went to an MD of gynecology a couple weeks ago, and she confirmed that I have fissuring in the areas I'm describing and used silver nitrate to stop the bleeding. Following this treatment, I abstained from sex until she gave me the green light, but after the first sexual encounter it happened again. I will be going back to the doctor to get another silver nitrate treatment, but I want to push her to do more tests/explore more causes. I asked her about the possibility of an estrogen deficiency, but she said it's unlikely since I am young, healthy, and getting my period, plus I am on a birth control that contains estradiol. I don't think my vagina feels dry, and I believe I produce enough natural lubrication during arousal. It seems that the skin tears when tugged during sex, and it didn't do this before. At this point, I am at a loss, but I refuse to be repetitively told that this will heal without other intervention since it has been a year of this re-occurring. Even if it does *eventually* heal, I know it is NOT NORMAL for the vulva to take nearly a year to heal itself. This has affected my mental health sooo much because I am anxious about finding answers and just want sex to be a happy part of my relationship. I need some advice, insight, suggestions, and guidance on what treatments or routes to explore with my doctor. Below I have a complete list of all the things I've been tested for so far as well as some other random symptoms:
  1. Yeast infection (negative, unsure of both internal and external were swabbed)
  2. BV (negative)
  3. Pap smear performed (normal)
  4. Trichomoniasis, chlamydia, gonorrhea (negative)
  5. Herpes simplex 1 AND herpes simplex 2 (negative for antibodies)
Other symptoms
  1. Recurrent bleeding gums only on the gum line, unrelated to oral health/hygiene. Was previously diagnosed with HSV1 infection by the dentist, but my last blood test showed that I've never had HSV1 (negative for antibodies)
  2. Mild anal fissures that resolve on their own
Any insight would be so incredibly appreciated. This has been so stressful, and I hate looking to the internet for medical advice, but I am SO sick of going around in circles with different practitioners that I am desperate for answers. Thanks so much guys.
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2020.09.06 05:07 meem_queen Recurring fissure of posterior fourchette and area under vaginal opening. Desperate for feedback. I feel so hopeless and sad.

I've (21F) been dealing with recurring fissures of my posterior fourchette and the area above it (outside the vagina and underneath the opening) for almost a year now, and it's seemingly provoked only by the friction/pressure of sex. Throughout this time, I've only had one sexual partner. I finally went to my college's health center and have been tested for any and every STD (all negative) and BV and yeast infections (also negative). The practitioners gave me the same rudimentary lecture every time: foreplay, fragrance-free detergent, cotton underwear, etc. I promise that none of those things make a difference, and I've always used unscented, dye-free products far before I began having these problems. I finally went to an MD of gynecology a couple weeks ago, and she confirmed that I have fissuring in the areas I'm describing and used silver nitrate to stop the bleeding. Following this treatment, I abstained from sex until she gave me the green light, but after the first sexual encounter it happened again. I will be going back to the doctor to get another silver nitrate treatment, but I want to push her to do more tests/explore more causes. I asked her about the possibility of an estrogen deficiency, but she said it's unlikely since I am young, healthy, and getting my period, plus I am on a birth control that contains estradiol. I don't think my vagina feels dry, and I believe I produce enough natural lubrication during arousal. It seems that the skin tears when tugged during sex, and it didn't do this before. At this point, I am at a loss, but I refuse to be repetitively told that this will heal without other intervention since it has been a year of this re-occurring. Even if it does *eventually* heal, I know it is NOT NORMAL for the vulva to take nearly a year to heal itself. This has affected my mental health sooo much because I am anxious about finding answers and just want sex to be a happy part of my relationship. I need some advice, insight, suggestions, and guidance on what treatments or routes to explore with my doctor. Below I have a complete list of all the things I've been tested for so far as well as some other random symptoms:

1) Yeast infection (negative, unsure of both internal and external were swabbed)
2) BV (negative)
3) Pap smear performed (normal)
4) Trichomoniasis, chlamydia, gonorrhea (negative)
5) Herpes simplex 1 AND herpes simplex 2 (negative for antibodies)

Other symptoms
1) Recurrent bleeding gums only on the gum line, unrelated to oral health/hygiene. Was previously diagnosed with HSV1 infection by the dentist, but my last blood test showed that I've never had HSV1 (negative for antibodies)
2) Mild anal fissures that resolve on their own

Any insight would be so incredibly appreciated. This has been so stressful, and I hate looking to the internet for medical advice, but I am SO sick of going around in circles with different practitioners that I am desperate for answers. Thanks so much guys.
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2020.09.05 17:23 HonMyChest How Do I Have Sex with Herpes? - Something Positive for Positive People Podcast

I don't know a single person who wants to have sex with herpes. Let's consider rephrasing to what are some safer sex practices available to me as someone who has HSV. Thinking of having sex with herpes is funny to think about though 🤣. The first Google results were from a company selling treatment to manage outbreaks.
The author gave some facts and made ya feel good reading through if you're someone newly diagnosed with herpes, but didn't answer the question. When people ask me how to have sex with herpes I begin with the question, "well how did you have sex with herpes before you received the diagnosis confirming your status which was likely there before you found out officially? " .
I follow up that question with "Well what changed? " and then challenge people to identify what exactly about their "past sex lives" did they feel needed to change. Our sex lives can always be revisited along with our boundaries around them.
My sex life expanded beyond intercourse. I think my perspective on sex was severely limited in believing it always started with oral, and ended in orgasm EVERY SINGLE TIME. My turn ons evolved, my standards shifted from being about "who can I get sex from?", to "who do I want to give this experience to? " See the difference?
When we inquire on sex while living with HSV, more often than not, the question is driven by what we think a potential partner needs to know in order to proceed. The real question here ought to be centered around our pleasure and our safety. Communicate our needs to partners and give em space to communicate theirs.
We have a great podcast episode featuring Dr. Evelin Dacker, who's STARS talk is a great model for communication around sex with anyone, including herpes haha. That is episode 99 of #spfpp called integrative disclosure.
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2020.09.05 16:47 DeanamiQ An open letter to people with cold sores

Attention to all oral HSV positive people here: I do hope that you are disclosing your cold sore “status” to potential partners. And that you mention that you may transmit the virus asymptomatically to their mouth or genitals during oral sex.
I suspect I probably got my genital herpes years ago due to oral contact, and from my first sex partner at that.
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2020.09.05 00:35 jbow2020 What are the chances I gave my girlfriend herpes?

A couple days ago I had sex with my partner and after noticed I had a small pimple on my groin. A day later that pimple turned into what was pretty obviously herpes (HSV1). At the time of the intercourse (oral and vaginal) I don't think it was leaking any fluid. I am worried that I gave her herpes and I haven't told her yet because I don't want to worry her. I am also afraid of her regifting it to me from kissing, so would it be responsible to tell her and also mention that we probably shouldn't kiss for a while? I feel bad not telling her, but I know for me it was the worst when I first found out and wanted to kind of spare her those feelings for a while. Is it very likely I gave it to her since I was at the beginning stages of an outbreak when we had sex?
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